On this day, April 26th, one year ago… life for me was much different.
A year ago, I was single and yes, also on dating apps… which I had tried several. Started with tinder, then onto bumble, then giving HER a try. At times I had three or four dating apps at once. I would delete them and redownload all the time, battling if I should be on them anyways. It wasn’t like I could find true love on a dating app, right?
There’s always a bigger story before becoming single though… that story starts well before April 26th, 2020. I was 24 and I had finally gotten my life together. I figured out who I was, who I wanted to be, and what I wanted for myself. We all know that’s a tough one to figure out, especially being lesbian. I was out with friends one night and had met my EX-girlfriend. For all you lesbians out there, she was not dating my friend, she was not my roommate, but she had a boyfriend at the time. Like their relationship, ours too failed. I had been in several relationships, where I wasn’t sure who I was, I was lost, and trying to figure out how to get back to the person I knew I wanted to be. But in this one, I was me… exactly where I wanted to be in life. I just wasn’t with the right person for me, the one that would be my perfect match, the one I would later find in this story.
It was not her fault, but this was her time to find herself and she was finding out that we were not growing together but growing apart. For me, this was a hard pill to swallow. How could this not be working? I had finally gotten my life together. Why was I still failing in relationships? But what I didn’t realize till later, was that you can be everything for yourself, but not everything for someone else. Meaning, I was enough, I was enough for me to be happy. But I was not enough for her.
I went through counseling to get my mind right. To realize I was going to be enough for someone, I will be enough for the right person. I had so much hate built up for my EX, because I just couldn’t understand. But when I finally came to realize and know, that I was enough, I forgave her, I forgave myself.
So there, it all begins. My story a year ago, began at forgiveness and at letting go of the past. I was so happy, happier than I had been in a very long time. One day, I was just swiping along on Bumble and there she was. This beautiful short haired blonde girl, IN SCRUBS. My weakness, she looked so DAMN good in those scrubs. But to be honest she looked so beautiful in anything…and later to find out, out of anything too.
Our story is one very quick but perfect love story. We talked for a couple weeks over text, phone calls and eventually facetime. She lived an hour or so away, but she had a daughter that she was protective over, which I respect, so we had to plan a time when she was her dad for the weekend. Finally, she was able to come to Orlando and see me. We were both very nervous but extremely excited. I had made plans that day to take her on the boat with my friends and I. We had an amazing day on the water, that lead into going dancing at a local country bar that night. She stole my heart on that first night! Yes, the first night in person, she became my girlfriend. And yes, we are THOSE lesbians. We had been talking for what felt like forever, this felt so right. Neither of us wanted that weekend to end, but sadly it did when she went back home.
We stayed talking all day long and eventually I met her daughter. I fell in love with her too, such a beautiful soul like her mom. They were so easy to be obsessed with. At 6 years old she had her moments, but they were small in comparison to all the amazing times we had together.
After only a couple months, they moved from their apartment and moved in with me. I owned my own home, with 4 bedrooms and 2 baths. I put a bedroom together for little bit and I was so proud of it. She absolutely adored it and so did mom. We were so happy together. As one family. Nothing in my life had ever felt more perfect.
So, I did like any TYPICAL lesbian would do, and in July of 2020, I proposed. With fireworks and billboards. Just kidding….I wish. But no, I was way too nervous for all that. I had found a ring I knew she would love and planned to wait a couple months to give it to her. Instead, the day I got it, I stopped her as she was getting into the shower and said I needed to ask her something and to come sit on the bed. She looked scared, like it was going to be a bad question. But I guess that’s what happens, when I am that nervous. So, as she sat there, butt naked, I asked her to marry me. I may have stuttered, but she totally knew what I said, because she answered YES!
So, our story is quick, but we never missed a beat. We started planning a big wedding, that was going to be in November of 2021, then it moved to January 2022. But in January of 2021 we decided to move to Georgia. We found a home and we were waiting for the construction to be complete. As we waited, we decided, why have a huge wedding in Orlando when we’re living in Georgia? So, we figured, “Let’s Elope.” Then we decided, “Why wait?” We booked a cute little Air B&B and got permission to elope there, at the house.
On March 25th we moved to Georgia and a week later, we came back to elope on April 3rd, 2021 (4321). It couldn’t have been more magical. We both had our best friends by our side and all the family we needed. That day was perfect, and that day was more than I could have imagined. My best friend is now my wife and her daughter is now our daughter.
Looking back a year ago… I would have never guessed I’d have this life that I love so much but I thank God for who I have become, who I am, and where this life will take me. Cheers to many more happy years ahead. Today, April 26th, 2021, I’m exactly where I always wanted to be.