The hardest thing about being a femme couple isn’t just who gets to wear the darker lipstick out tonight, because when we kiss it’ll end up all over each others faces. It is coordinating outfits to functions to make sure you don’t clash with one another! Listen, just because you are attracted to another girl who is also wearing a dress doesn’t mean only one of you can wear it.
The secret is out! You both can wear a pretty dress to a date night at your favorite restaurant. Here I am going to navigate a few different functions and how you can style your wardrobe to go with your partners.
Denim has been the fashion choice made for you since you could walk in your mom’s oversized 90’s platforms. It will never go out of style & can elevate your look for smaller less dressy events! Perfect for when you are meeting your date or partner for brunch or a casual outing with family. Denim is the easiest fabric to pair with one another because you can both wear it without being matchy or clashing.
Whether you decide to wear a denim top, dress, or bottoms try to accessories or add a piece to your look that matches your partner’s color scheme. If you decided on a denim dress then your partner could wear some jeans and a blouse/cami. Or if you both want to wear a dress one of you could wear something with a pattern and add a denim jacket as your accessory.
Having similar taste in outfits can never lead to your downfall! You’ll be able to play on each other’s strengths in wearing shapes that work for your bodies. Date night is a pretty special occasion where there are no rules to what each of you wear when dressing up. If one of you wants to wear pants & the other a dress then you wear the heck out of those pants. Add a blouse or a cute cropped top to some paper bag pants & you can make it girly by adding some heels & stacking some cute hair clips!
If you both decide to wear florals why not two versions? One of you could wear lace and the other a print floral! If you want to be really saucy you can even mix the same neckline. If both of you want to wear off the shoulder try mixing with an a-line and a body con or cold shoulder top!
Formal events can be tricky to dress for. Wearing a solid color can be fun but double it with two women & it can get a little blah. I personally love to mix different fabrics and textures together to give the illusion of variety when trying to avoid fashion monotony. Play up what you both are wearing by trying different textures and fabrics! Try mixing a satin with a chiffon, or tulle with crepe, or sequins with velvet. Even though you are trying something as wild as differing textures don’t forget to keep within the same color palette together!
Whatever occasion you are dressing for, as long as you are keeping within the same color family, you will be golden. Keep your cool tones like blue, green, purple together and orange, pink, and reds. If you are still unsure or don’t love color then you can never go wrong with neutrals. Wear what makes you happy, comfortable, & gives you the confidence to look fierce with your Queen on your next date night.
I am Malori from @malorisclark & I have been a plus size fashion blogger for over 6 years, working with various brands & spreading body positivity awareness. I identify as Pansexual and my pronouns are she/her. I have been dating my girlfriend, Ashley, for a year and a half & we adopted two cute pets; a cat named Abra and a dog named Lumos. We reside in Phoenix, AZ and run an Instagram together (@malleyinlove). With The Femme Edition, I am here to provide insight not only as part of a Femme Couple but for plus size fashion within the LGBTQ community. I am excited to be apart of this project & hope to bring awareness to these topics!